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Well, the deadline for Derek entries has passed and a few Dereks were brave enough to create a video. I’ll be posting the videos this weekend and voting will begin on Monday.
So, pick your favorite Derek, get ready to vote, and you may win a prize, too! More details will be posted Monday.
Have a great weekend!
Best,
Rachelle
So, I took my Derek search to the streets of San Francisco. With a little help from my friend Saeeda (who manned the camcorder), we caught a few friendly tourists from Spain at Swig, a trendy bar with fantastic live music. I asked them if they wanted to be Derek. Check out the amusing results:
Okay, I’m plagiarizing from myself here, in that I wrote this post on the Aphrodisia Authors blog - but, I think it belongs here. Please keep in mind, I’m referring only to a man’s physical sexiness, not his mind or character (both of which tie for the #1 trait that makes a man attractive). So, here goes …
Up until recently, I thought I was a face gal. Give me a man with a beautiful pair of eyes framed by long lashes, along with a full set of soft, kissable lips, a sexy smile, and my heart – and other body parts – instantly melted.
Oh, sure, the guy’s body was important, but it’s his face that had always captured my attention first. Because it’s his face that I had to stare at 95% of the time during our interactions.
But, now, I feel a change in the air.
After reading Bonnie Edward’s blog about What is Sexy? and writing my guest blog titled I Need a Man – both at Naughty and Spice – I’ve been forced to admit the obvious.
That I’m becoming a total body girl – broad shoulders, rock hard abs, muscled thighs … There is no body part that I won’t admire (though I will admit that feet are at the bottom of my list).
And, if that wasn’t enough, I fear that I’m becoming attracted to men in uniforms.
While walking down the street last week, a police officer stopped me. Was my heart racing because my mind was scrambling to determine which law I’d broken? Or was it racing because of the muscular body and flat stomach encased in the navy uniform? The authoritative hand-on-the-holster stance? Or the half-smile playing on his face and the mystery lurking behind the sexy shades? When he asked me for my number, I decided that the law was not the source of my thrill.
Then, there are the men in motorcycle leathers. Now, until I bought a bike and started riding, I was completely immune to the appeal. But now, one glimpse of a muscled chest, back, or thigh encased in leather as a big, gleaming, bike passes by me and my heart does this odd little jump.
So is it just me – or do you find that what you once found physically attractive about a man is changing? When it comes to a man’s body, what do you find sexy? And, if you’re not into guys, don’t feel left out - I’d love to hear your thoughts as they pertain to women.
It pains me greatly that I cannot enter Terry into the contest. It’s not that he wouldn’t make a perfect Derek. No, no, of course not - no, that’s not it. Instead, I can’t enter him because …
… uh … um …
… He’d have an unfair advantage. Yes, yes, that’s it. He’d have an unfair advantage because, last month, I interviewed both Todd and Terry on my live talk show, “Chatting with Chase” (and Terry wrote a lovely poem for me afterwards).
So, listen to the show, check out his entry below — and you’ll understand why his picture says a thousand words. And then tell me … do you think Terry should be allowed to enter the contest?
Name: Terry T.
Age: 25
Occupation: Romance Analyst and Dating Expert
Hobbies: Love-making, pleasure, sensuality, doing it
Web Site:
www.thelonesomelosers.com
View Photo #2: Terry T. Photo #2
Listen to Terry’s SEX LOUNGE Excerpt:
Have you ever helped a woman live out her fantasies?: “Many times. It’s almost ridiculous even answering this question.”
Tell us about it : “I don’t know if I could pick the “best” example. That’s the whole reason my friend Todd and I started a web show giving dating advice; we knew people could benefit from our natural expertise.
If there’s one thing I have in common with Derek Mitchell, it is that I am completely and naturally in touch with what women find SENSUAL. You have to know how to push the right SENSUAL BUTTON, and I, like Derek, know exactly what that button is. I have a natural tact at discovering a woman’s sensual fantasy.
I’ll give you an example: I was on a first date with this hot little vixen, and as we were walking down the street after dinner, she just had to stop every dog that came along and touch it, pet it, coo at it. She loved dogs.
Flash forward to our second date: Vixen and I are making out heavy upstairs in my crib, pretty standard stuff. But I’m not a standard guy, and I wanted her to live out her fantasy, so I got to thinking… what would really push her ’sensual button’? What would she consider ‘living out her fantasy?’ And then it hit me: DOGS.
I told her I had to slip downstairs to get some massage oil (yeah, right). So I snuck downstairs, grabbed an old fur scarf thing of my mom’s, and threw it into a blender with some School Glue. I turned it on high power, and blended up a viscous concoction… a concoction that I felt certain would lead to love. I smeared it all over my body until my naked torso was covered in fur (next time I might use a different adhesive: the glue took a few days to come off, and I couldn’t use the bathroom during that time, but it was worth it).
When I returned to the bedroom, my little vixen went wild… wild with passion. She loved it, and as my furry, sticky body met her soft skin, I knew she was living out her dream.
Derek would have done the same. When she and I left the hospital a few days later, I knew she’d fulfilled a fantasy, and I’d just done my job.
Rachelle, meet your new Derek Mitchell.”
Oftentimes, I believe things that others don’t. Like, when at the end of a date, the guy says, “I had a great time. I’ll call you,” I actually look for his call. Or when my best friend calls for the hundredth time in as many days and says, “That’s it. I’m leaving him,” I clean out the spare bedroom - again.
Okay, sure, so sometimes I can be a bit naïve. But I didn’t think my naivety would apply to this contest. However, it has, for, I actually thought:
Naïve Belief #1: Men Will Flock to My Contest in Droves
Now, why did I think this, you ask?
Because I’ve seen statistics on the number of times per minute/hour/day that men think about sex. I’ve heard my guy friends complain about how much they want sex and how little their wife/girlfriend is giving them. I’ve overheard guys declare with pride in coffee shops, bars, restaurants, etc. how hot Vanessa or Cindy or Keisha thought he was. I’ve witnessed the Bar Scene Mating Ritual and seen the guy’s chest puff up when the woman he’d been making eyes at sent him that I-think-you’re-hot smile.
So, all this led me to naively assume that men would:
Instead, some of the responses have surprised me. Yes, there are men – like Julian, Fred, Chris, and others - who met my expectations above. But they have been the exceptions. For every one hundred guys I approached about my contest, fewer than five were receptive.
Some of the responses — like the common “I’m not hot enough”— were endearing, because they revealed a male vulnerability I wasn’t expecting. Which showed me that men, just like women, compare themselves to what society (or Hollywood) promotes as hot – and find themselves lacking.
Other reactions shocked me. Like the model/actor who’d admitted that he’d been a “perpetrator of degrading women” but found Derek to be “lacking any substance, materialistic, and, frankly, offensive.”
But the piece de resistance occurred during my recent guest appearance on Playboy Radio when the host, Tara Mack, asked callers to give me a word for “vagina” to use in a book. When pressed to give an answer, two guys actually hung up.
So I’d like to talk about this. Are guys shy about going public with sex? If given a chance, do guys really want to be a sex symbol? Are men comfortable with their sexuality? Men and women, I’d love to hear your thoughts!
